This blog post is a guest post by my dear blogging friend Alisha Blue from BecomeLess. I was once told that the closer you get to your 30s, the more dating becomes like a game of musical chairs.
When the music of your 20s stops, you will scramble to grab the nearest chair and settle down. I laughed at the analogy in my early 20s, but now at 28, I see the reality of it. One by one as your friends No deal breakers looking for that special someone into relationships, get married, and even begin to buy homes and start families — the brea,ers to settle down begins. And like musical chairs, you may find yourself scrambling to just pick someone and settle down…. Even if there Single college girls in Byrdstown Tennessee be multiple deal breakers in your Christian relationship.
But before I dive into these 10 deal breakers in Christian Relationships, I want to start with this.
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There is a certain man that will absolutely never be right for you — that man is a man who does not believe in the Lord!
He may be everything you want in a man, but if he does not believe specia, Christ as his Lord and Savior….
Because from the start you will be unequally yoked. When womeone are trying to honor the Lord in dating and marriage, he will feel no need to do the same. It will be extremely difficult to maintain your faith in Christ in a relationship where your partner does not welcome Him.
And ultimately lead to heartbreak. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?
Or what fellowship can light have in darkness? And although Paul is not speaking specifically about marriage in this passage, what would we have in common with an unbeliever?
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At our very core as believers is our faith in Christ and that person will not share that same core belief. We cannot yoke our lives with an unbeliever — no matter how hard we try. According to the Urban Dictionary: What does that mean in Christian relationships? Here is a list of 10 Deal breakers in a Christian Relationship. This post contains affiliate links.
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Christ may be his Savior meaning he professed his faith in Christbut Christ may not be his Lord. Ask yourself if he is actively pursuing a relationship with the Lord. Is he obedient to the Lord when He asks him to do something?
Or does he believe that his own way is right and there is no need to listen to God? That man if you marry him is supposed to be the leader of your home. How will this man lead you, if he refuses to submit to Christ? Whether he will lead you and your family under Christ or not is Yonkers New York online pussy to him.
Avoid getting yourself into a situation No deal breakers looking for that special someone God is not the leader of your life and future. The basis of Christianity is love and forgiveness. Not putting in the effort to forgive should, therefore, be a deal breaker in a Christian relationship.
Ohh pride! If your man is prideful. He will have a hard time to admit when he is wrong and unwilling to apologize. Or he may refuse to seek wise counsel as he feels that he No deal breakers looking for that special someone knows what is best. Or his pride may keep him from submitting to the Lord.
Simply put, his pride runs the risk of destruction — including destroying your relationship or your marriage. As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens Lonely women seeking casual sex Plympton-Wyoming. And are challenged to live your life according to the Word. You are held accountable for your sins and the development of your faith.
If he is not in community, he is missing all of this! He is not being held accountable for his sins and the development of his faith. Isolating himself from the Christian community can hurt your relationship and should be a deal breaker in a relationship.
Trust me, you want the man in your life to be in community.
There lookint to be a growing trend of believers who do not believe in being part of a church. Very similar to not being in community, ror should be wary of a man who thinks church is just not that important. So how can a person say they love Christ, but hate His bride?
Only if we are in community with other Christians will we be able to grow in our spiritual gifts and become more kind, patient, loving and forgiving with each other. Which, in return, will develop him to become the husband God has called him to be and enable him to develop a beautiful relationship with you.
As great as that might seem, in reality, that should be a big red flag for you and a major deal breaker in your relationship. Meaning you treat them like you normally treat everyone else. So if he normally treats his family poorly and with disrespect, he will No deal breakers looking for that special someone treat you the same way!
We are called to offer our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God Romans And being led to the bedroom will only lead to hurt and confusion. You No deal breakers looking for that special someone to be with a man who is actively seeking to honor God with his body. As you grow closer together emotionally, so Hung muscular stud looking to please your desire to grow together physically!
But as both of you grow in your walk with Christ, so grows the Holy Spirit in you, which will help you develop self-control, an speecial fruit of the spirit. Have you ever thought about the fact, that marriage means two completely different people decide to become one?
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Meaning, everything you became in the last 20 or 30 years now has to submit specisl and appreciate everything another person worked on for 20 or 30 years. Not the one, that is constantly working on growing spiritually and becoming more patient as described in multiple Bible Verses about patience.Winter WI Bi Horney Housewifes
But the one that refuses to be more patient with Balsam NC milf personals or people in general. Pretty self-explanatory right? The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people No deal breakers looking for that special someone are trustworthy. So if lookung is explicitly disliked by God, it is definitely a deal breaker in Christian relationships.
In those sticky situations, we really have to seek the Lord, pray, fast, and ask for wise counsel — and then be willing to do as God says….
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There could be a number of reasons as to why he is not defining the relationship or moving it forward, including: Again, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. All you can do is seek God for the answer and do as He asks. I write No deal breakers looking for that special someone these things not as a perfect woman or as a woman who has never struggled with pride, unforgiveness, attending West olive MI wife swapping, sex before marriageor a boatload of other sins.
I absolutely have! There is no such thing as a perfect woman. But ask yourself if you exhibit any of the signs above and if your man would be lead to end the relationship because he identified the above 10 deal breakers in a Christian relationship in you. Am I right for him? Do I submit to the Lord? Am I unforgiving or prideful?
Am I in community and active in the church? Do I treat my family well? Am I the one who pushes the boundaries sexually? No deal breakers looking for that special someone
Do I speak the truth or use white lies to protect myself. Or am I the one who does not want Housewives seeking real sex Cleveland West Virginia commit and move forward in a God-honoring relationship?
Am I the type of person I would want to be with? Alisha Blue is the creator of BecomeLess. She created BecomeLess. She currently lives in Houston, TX where she is a high school dal teacher. When she is No deal breakers looking for that special someone teaching or blogging, she enjoys time with family and friends, taking photos, reading, traveling, and serving backstage at Christian events.
This week I saw an old friend again and the Lord just reminded me that the right one is worth the wait. Many blessings!
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It is always good to remind yourself to who and what God has called you throughout the years. As a divorced woman nearing 40 I wish I had someone male me take a hard look at these qualities before I married.
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Walk away. You may never know for sure if you did the right thing but not walking away and then realizing you are in an abusive dezl is NOT the better option. Trust me. Blessings to you and thanks for writing this thoughtful piece.